A six-week program for turning a promising connection into a relationship
Six Weeks From Promising to Defined
For the situation that is going well and going nowhere. Six weeks of lessons, word-for-word scripts and evidence-based exercises that take a connection from undefined to decided — one way or the other.
What's included
- 6 weekly modules (4 lessons each)
- 24 word-for-word scripts for the hard conversations
- The Given vs Promised worksheet
- The Eight-Week Decision Page
- Integration checklist (what commitment actually looks like)
- Repair and conflict guide
- Lifetime access, including future updates
Who it's for
- You've been seeing someone for months and still can't describe what it is.
- You keep waiting for the right moment to ask where this is going.
- You want a relationship, and you've been quietly pretending casual is fine.
- You'd rather have a clear no than another undefined year.
Who it's not for
- You want tactics to pressure someone into commitment.
- You're looking for a way to avoid the conversation entirely.
- You need clinical support for trauma or abuse — that needs a qualified professional.
The six-week curriculum
Week 1
Read the Evidence
Establish what has actually happened, separate from what has been promised.
- Given vs promised: the two columns
- Initiation ratios and what they predict
- Integration: whose life have you entered
- Writing your eight-week page
Week 2
Decide What You're Building
Name the relationship you want in behaviour, so you can recognise it or its absence.
- Your relationship goal in observable terms
- Non-negotiables vs preferences
- The cost of an undefined year
- Your own timeline, written down
Week 3
The Defining Conversation
The exact wording, the timing and what to do with every answer you might get.
- Answer your own question first
- The script, line by line
- Handling 'I need time'
- Handling a no without collapsing
Week 4
Requests That Land
Ask for changes in a way that invites a decision rather than a defence.
- Situation, request, silence
- Raising something that bothered you
- Plans, pace and reliability
- When a request is refused
Week 5
Conflict and Repair
The forecast isn't in how you argue, it's in what happens an hour later.
- Who initiates repair, and why it matters
- Specific apologies vs atmospheric ones
- Rupture without withdrawal
- Rebuilding after a bad week
Week 6
Commit or Close
Make the decision the evidence supports, and behave in line with it.
- The decision page, filled in
- Committing well: what changes now
- Leaving well: the three-sentence ending
- Your next ninety days
Frequently asked questions
- How is the program delivered?
- Online, one module per week, on mobile or desktop. You keep lifetime access and can revisit any lesson later.
- Do I need to be seeing someone already?
- It's built for an existing connection, but the evidence and conversation work is just as useful for the next one.
- Will this make someone commit to me?
- No, and nothing can. It gets you a clear answer far sooner, and makes sure your side of the conversation is the strongest it can be.
- What's the refund policy?
- Refund terms are published on our refund policy page and shown at checkout before you pay.
From Dating to Commitment is educational guidance about dating and communication. It is not therapy or mental health treatment. See our refund policy and terms.
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